Moving on

[lifetaketwo]

My ex has gotten himself an apartment.

This is big. Huge. It's the first time he's ever had an apartment on his own, i.e. not with a girlfriend/roommate. He's been living at the armory since he moved out of our house in October 2005. I'm sure the taxpayers would be interested to know that.

Not surprisingly, it's located less than a mile from where he works. At this point it's unfurnished. As far as I know, he has no bed, only an air mattress. He has a blue recliner and two leather couches, all spoils from the divorce. I have everything else.

He's referring to it as "the kids' other home." He's invited me to come look at it next Tuesday. Per the divorce papers, he has to acquire suitable housing and allow me to inspect the premises. Once I okay it, he plans to take the kids overnight one night per week, and two weekends per month.

Hmm. This man doesn't cook. He isn't nurturing. He spends only three hours a week with his kids at this point. He doesn't know them. And he wants to have them as overnight guests? 

I can only assume that his mother, sisters and girlfriend have been pressuring him to get a place so they can visit. And every time my kids are there, they will be, too.

Sigh.

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[rt-here-rt-now.livejournal.com]

You know, I am divorced as well, and the whole custody laws/divorce laws are just plain MESSED UP. My ex had some serious issues a year or so after our divorce, and yet, I still had to let him have visits. It made me literally SICK with worry until she would come home. Thank God he's gotten himself in a better place now (thanks to a girlfriend) and everything is cool. But forcing one parent to leave the children with a suboptimal parent, in any sense, is in my opinion just wrong. There should be more specifics in place. Thanks for listening to me rant.